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Mother-in-law a web hit with advice for 'uncouth' bride-to-be


Heidi Withers and Freddie Bourne on holiday in the US

Heidi Withers and Freddie Bourne on holiday in the US

Heidi Withers and Freddie Bourne on holiday in the US

THE wedding was already going to be difficult. It now promises to be excruciating for all concerned.

A bride-to-be has received a very public etiquette lesson after an email from her future mother-in-law, attacking her 'uncouthness' and 'lack of manners', went viral over the internet.

Heidi Withers (29) a London PA, was sent the email by Carolyn Bourne, the stepmother of her fiance, Freddie Bourne (also 29) and a businessman, after she visited her future in-laws in Devon, southwest England.

In the withering message, Mrs Bourne (60) a championship-winning flower breeder, said: "It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you."

The email, which listed examples of Miss Withers' "lack of grace" and "insulting" behaviour, was forwarded by its startled recipient to a few of her close friends.

They forwarded it to a few of theirs, and it has now arrived in the inbox of thousands of others.


Mrs Bourne, a renowned breeder of pinks and dianthus flowers who runs the Whetman Pinks nursery, described her future daughter-in-law as "an ideal candidate for the 'Ladette to Lady' television series".

She continued: "Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you.

"It may just be possible to get through to you, though. I do hope so. Your behaviour on your visit to Devon during April was staggering in its uncouthness and lack of grace.

"Unfortunately, this was not the first example of bad manners I have experienced from you."

The email catalogued Miss Withers' failings during the Devon trip, including her fussiness over her food, sleeping in late and insulting the family to others in a pub.

"I pity Freddie," Mrs Bourne concluded.

A friend of hers said: "She's a lovely person , calm, charming, always smiling. As the mother of teenage children myself, I can only imagine that this situation has driven her to distraction." (© Independent News Service)

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