Monday 27 January 2020

'Fidgety and bizarre' manner of banker with dating spreadsheet – woman he tried to woo

Dave compiled a spreadsheet of all of the women he had met online.
Dave compiled a spreadsheet of all of the women he had met online.
Other data collected included the names and ages of the women he contacted and an 'online appearance' score.
Dates of message communication, initial date status and initial date comments were recorded.

Nick Allen, and Mark Hughes

A NEW YORK banker who kept details of his dating exploits on a candid spreadsheet behaved in a "fidgety and bizarre" manner, according to one of the women he tried to woo.

David Merkur, 28, listed details of 12 women he was meeting for dates including their first names, a score out of 10 for their appearance, and comments on their personalities, in a meticulously constructed computer document.



One of the women, who he named as "Marisa, 25," was described in the Excel spreadsheet as having a "nice face/bod" but Mr Merkur concluded: "OK girl, but very jappy (slang for Jewish American Princess); one and done for me."



After the file was made public the woman, who declined to be identified by her full name, said she was shocked.



She said: "If I had to sum him up in one word, it would be 'fidgety'. He got up to readjust himself a few times in the middle of our conversation, which was bizarre. He kept taking his glasses off and then putting them on again."



She also described how Mr Merkur had been able to identify the make of her designer handbag. "He said his mother had it," she said.



Mr Merkur's unusual spreadsheet was colour coordinated, including different shades for women to "monitor closely" or "monitor casually".



Bold type indicated that he should pursue the woman in question "Asap," and he also kept detailed records of the days he had corresponded by email and text message with each woman.



His approach to dating emerged after he sent the spreadsheet by email to one of the women he was seeing. She in turn forwarded it to friends.



Mr Merkur, who is listed as living in a Manhattan apartment, was lying low after a backlash against his tactics. There was no answer on his work phone at Ladder Capital, a commercial real estate finance company in Manhattan.



He met eight of the women he dated through the internet dating website Match.com, and the other four through friends and family.



One woman was described as having a "mixed bag of pictures" and Mr Merkur noted that he had "drunkenly hooked up" with another after a karaoke birthday party.



Unwisely, he forwarded the spreadsheet to a woman he listed as "Arielle, 26," and described as "very pretty, sweet and down to earth". He told her: "I hope this email doesn't backfire."



But Arielle, who scored 9.0 out of 10 on the spreadsheet, sent it to her friends as some "Monday morning entertainment." She added: "Just when I thought I had seen it all."



Before going to ground, Mr Merkur told the New York Post he was very busy and had just been trying to stay organised.



He said: "I sincerely regret my serious lapse in judgment in this matter and apologise to everyone. I am deeply remorseful. Suffice it to say, I will never do anything like this again."



He also told the website Jezebel.com that he was having "the worst day of my life" and was quitting internet dating. He added: "I screwed some people, and I screwed myself."



Telegraph.co.uk

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