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Revealed: How many men said that they would consider taking their wife's name after they marry



Photo by Alvin Mahmudov

Photo by Alvin Mahmudov

Photo by Alvin Mahmudov

Does the expectation still exist that, in a straight relationship, a woman will automatically take her husband's name as her own after they tie the knot?

While many women do still chose to let go of their maiden name once they get married, and others chose to double barrel their's to include both, a new trend seems to have emerged whereby it's the man who takes the woman's name instead.


With one in ten men in the UK said to now be taking their wife's name once they tied the knot, we wondered if the idea would catch on in Ireland.


Of 1,492 surveyed by THEVOW.ie, 36% said that they WOULD consider taking their wife's last name when they got married.

The poll certainly got the conversation going about whether or not a woman should be expected to take her husband's name, receiving a huge number of comments on Facebook.

While some were of the 'to each their own' opinion, others said a compromise between the couple could be had by using a double barrel and both taking both names.

One commented called for a "complete revision of the naming system".

Here are some of the top comments from our poll:

"Hardly a symbol of equality, really, considering that most women owe their surnames to their fathers (in our patrilineal system). Switching from patrilineal to matrilineal would require new surnames entirely seeing as almost all surnames existing in Ireland are of the male line (any Macs, Mcs, O's, Fitzs, and one assumes even those surnames based on professions such as Smith, Fletcher, Cooper, also). A complete revision of the naming system would be the most equal or fair rather than some token reversal ignoring fact." - Liam Whelan

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"The wife's father died before we got married and as her parents were divorced the leach name would have died out if she took my name so I suggested we become leach-Marshall therefore the leach name is carried on. Also as far as I'm aware we are the only 4 leach-Marshalls in the world" - Colin Leach Marshall

"Everyone just call yourself whatever you want. Keep your name, change your name, whatever. It’s an individual choice as a name is highly personal. Do what’s right for YOU." - Meagan Andres

"I took my wife’s last name at marriage. It wasn’t yet legal in SC, and I had to petition state government. My decision was simple. I was estranged from my father and his side of the family, he didn’t represent the type of person I was or strived to be, and I had the option to take the name of a good man, who had no sons of his own. Additionally, dropping a Hispanic sounding name, sadly, removed some prejudice I encountered during job hunts." - Dennis Mann, South Carolina

I kept my own name, has been a struggle so I changed to double barrel name, but still people call me by my husbands name (annoying) I think no one should change their birth name unless they want to for other reasons and no one should expect a person to change," - Kathleen Coffey O'Connell

"Our entire family uses a matrilineal name. Our Irish ancestor took his wife's name when he left Ireland for the USA. He had some compelling reasons." - Diana Crowley

"My wife took my surname but I didn't insist on it...I'm happy she dud but had she wanted to keep her maiden name it wouldn't have bothered me. I wouldn't change mine to hers though..." - Sean O'Dea

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