What the readers say
I'd struggle to put up with my own mother coming round so often, let alone my mother-in-law! Just as you would end up having a discreet word with your own mum about this, you need to do the same with your in-laws.
Explain that while you appreciate her gestures and understand that she's going through a difficult time, you and your husband enjoy looking after the domestic front yourselves, but also need some time alone together to unwind. So suggest that she either cuts down on the sleepovers and dinners, or confirm a date with you first, so that you're not overwhelmed by impromptu visits. She needs to be independent too.
Kayla, Co Dublin
I think you're being a little unfair after all she's been through -- would you treat your own mum the same way? Make the most of all the home help you're getting now, because once she's feeling stronger, you may see much less of her and then you'll realise what you've missed.
Marie, Co Wexford