Sunday 22 April 2018

Kirstie Allsopp’s guide to marriage: don’t talk to your man until you’ve fed him

Library Image. Photo: Getty Images
Library Image. Photo: Getty Images

Anita Singh

As a presenter of Location Location Location, Kirstie Allsopp has taught us how to avoid the pitfalls of property-buying.

Now she has turned her hand to relationships by advising women that the key to marital happiness is cooking a meal for your man.

There can never be equality of the sexes because men and women are so different, according to Allsopp.

She cautioned that while women are happy to talk about their feelings at the drop of a hat, men can only do so on a full stomach.

“If you want to talk about feelings, don’t do it when they’re hungry. Men are different from women, they have different metabolic rates. My mum always used to say, ‘Pick your moments... make sure they’re fed’. They can’t cope otherwise,” Allsopp explained.

“I’m a self-supporting working mum. We’ve been through that era of men earning all the money, and women being dominated, and a period of women thinking they are in charge of everything.

“We’re not at a point where people are acknowledging that men and women are different and that, if you want to have a happy relationship, you have to understand those differences.”

Allsopp lives with her partner, property developer Ben Andersen, and their two children, Bay, five, and Oscar, three. They also share custody of Andersen’s sons from a previous marriage, Orion, 11, and Hal, eight.

They met in 2004 but Andersen is yet to propose, despite Allsopp admitting that she would love to marry.

“I’m convinced that I will marry. It’s important to me, but the nature of Ben is that he’s got to find a time and a place where it could happen without anybody knowing,” she explained.

The 40-year-old presenter and daughter of Lord Hindlip, the former Christie’s chairman, was dubbed a “1950s housewife” earlier this year after saying that women should put their partners first.

In a new interview with Easy Living magazine, she set the record straight. “The thing is, what Ben wants to do at the weekend is what the boys want to do, so I pretty much let him decide.

“It’s got nothing to do with feminism, it’s to do with consideration, Happiness is about making the people that you love happy. I do put Ben first, but he also puts me first,” she said.

Allsopp added that her partner can be generous with gifts: “My best, most special presents have always been from Ben. The other week, he gave me a vintage gold Rolex watch because he said, ‘You’ve been working really hard and I thought you deserved a present’.”

In addition to co-presenting Channel 4’s Location Location Location with Phil Spencer, Allsopp is currently appearing in her own series, Kirstie’s Handmade Britain, in which she tries her hands at traditional crafts.

Although she looks immaculate on screen, Allsopp said she was keen to dispel the myth that celebrities are naturally more attractive than the rest of us.

“When you see a picture of someone looking fresh-faced, like Angelina Jolie, it’s because they have five facials a week and wear very big sunglasses."

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