I want to date a younger man - what the readers say
I don't see what the problem is with you dating a younger guy, or why it's any concern of your friends or his. In your case, the friends are probably jealous, as they're no doubt stuck with ageing husbands and wish they had a younger model!
If the guy himself if happy with you, then don't worry what his friends think. I bet many of them would like an older woman, so it's probably jealousy all round. Enjoy your time with him and ignore the others.
As a man close to your age, I find it offensive to be tarred with the same brush as these "drab and boring" types. Having just got back into the dating scene, it's a bit too soon for you to be writing off all men in their 40s and deciding that toy boys are the only solution. It's not surprising you're meeting dull types if you're only looking on the internet. Go out and meet real people.
Aidan, Co Wicklow
Maybe your friends think you're coming across as being a bit desperate in your keenness for this young bloke. Just enjoy it for what it is and you won't get hurt.
Glenda, Co Dublin