Asking for a friend: ‘My boyfriend broke up with me because I put on weight after my mother died. Will anyone ever want to date me again?’

'Refusing to date someone just because of their weight is called fatphobia'

Caroline West

My ex broke up with me four months ago, and it was not an easy break-up. We were together for two years and I didn’t want to break up with him. I stupidly still love him, even though he hurt me so much. He told me he was breaking up with me because we were going in different directions in life, but he also told me it was because I had put on so much weight and he didn’t find me attractive anymore. I was devastated. He is right in that I have put on a lot of weight, but I’ve also felt a bit stressed and a little bit depressed. I lost my mam two years ago and I don’t think I’ve gotten over it yet. I ate a lot of comfort food, but I didn’t think he was looking at me this way. I feel awful, and like my life has been turned upside down. I don’t like being single anyway, but I don’t want to even think about trying to date again now that I am fat. Who is going to want me if I am so ugly and miserable?