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Monday 20 May 2019

Ask Brian: Top five most read columns of all time

As our Ask Brian column comes to an end here on Independent.ie, we take a look at the five most read columns from the last three years.

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Here are the top five most read Ask Brian columns of all time.

5. I discovered my boyfriend on gay dating websites while cleaning his email inbox

I've been dating my boyfriend for just over five years. We lived together for two and half of these but the last two years we've been living apart after a brief separation but are trying to make things work.

The reason for the separation was that one day when I was cleaning his email inbox for him I discovered emails between him and another man.

It didn't take long reading them to figure out him and this man had been having sex. I was shocked and heartbroken. There were emails going back at least two years, back to the start of our relationship.

Their relationship didn't seem to be just a sex thing either, the other man was talking about plans to introduce my boyfriend to his family and all. He obviously doesn't know I exist...

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Ask Brian: I discovered my boyfriend on gay dating websites while cleaning his email inbox

4. My boyfriend needs to put down the pizza and lose his moobs or I'm leaving

I've been with my boyfriend two and a half years and everything is going pretty well, except for the fact that since the start of this year he's been piling on weight.

When we started dating he'd hit the gym 3 or 4 times a week and would always push for us to do outdoor activities on weekends.

He started the slide last Christmas. I think everyone lets their hair down a bit around the festive period which is fine. But in early January when most people get back on track he got injured which prevented him going to the gym for almost 6 weeks.

But when the 6 weeks passed he didn't go back, he seemed to lose motivation...

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Ask Brian: My boyfriend needs to put down the pizza and lose his new moobs or I'm leaving

3. My boyfriend got me a kettle and teabags for Christmas

I am utterly furious.

My boyfriend decided that a good present to get his girlfriend of four years was a kettle with some Lyons tea bags (I drink Barry's).

We decided early in November that we would set a €50 limit on presents for each other this year, we're renting and trying to save a deposit for a mortgage.

I did think he might push the boat out and spend a bit more, it's Christmas after all. I'm not saying I expected him to spend thousands, but maybe a few hundred at least.

Well I came down on Christmas morning to see one solitary wrapped box under the tree...

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Ask Brian: My boyfriend got me a kettle and teabags for Christmas 

2. I'm pretending to go to the gym but I'm really eating cake

Myself and my boyfriend moved in together almost a year ago.

We piled on the pounds since then, a lot of Dominos and Netflix and chill. Both of us work full time and aren't really physically active.

So at the end of last year we both promised that from the start of January we'd kick the junk food and start exercising. 

He's started playing 5-a-side again and going jogging a few times a week. I decided I'd take up a spinning class at our local gym.

The thing is, I hate it, with a passion...

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Ask Brian: I'm pretending to go to the gym but I'm really eating cake

1: I caught my boyfriend performing a sex act on his male friend at a music festival

I need some sound advice. This is the third relationship I’ve been in where I’ve been cheated on.

The first boyfriend slept with a girl he met through work (a month after we had sex for the first time) and gave oral sex to his male friend at a music festival we were at (which I walked in on). I broke up with him after the festival and he told me about the girl he slept with.

The second boyfriend slept with my best friend who was the closest thing I've ever had to a sister, while I was in London for 5 days on a holiday with a friend. He also hit on my gay friend when he came over to visit me. I ghosted him out of my life.

The third guy I’d met through a dating app and he said he was looking for commitment. We became boyfriend and girlfriend after 2 weeks and I met his family and friends. I saw on his WhatsApp that he was messaging other girls. My intuition kicked in and I asked him if there was another girl on the scene and he didn’t respond. I told him he could be honest, that I could take it. He ghosted me and I told him through WhatsApp that I’m calling this a day. He’s a recovering gambling addict and his brother told me he shouldn’t be in a relationship. But I wanted to give him a chance.

I’m a sexually active woman and I’ve had lovers in between, some good some bad. But the 3 relationships I’ve had have resulted in my other half cheating...

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Ask Brian: I caught my boyfriend performing a sex act on his male friend at a music festival

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