Saturday 20 January 2018

9 reasons to love being single on Valentine's Day

February 14 is just another day, right? It is if you're unattached

Dakota Johnson and Rebel Wilson live it up in 'How To Be Single'.
Dakota Johnson and Rebel Wilson live it up in 'How To Be Single'.

Grainne Coyne

This Sunday is St Valentine's Day, the day our social media timelines will be filled with breakfast-in-bed selfies, delivery vans will be stocked with red roses, and heart-shaped chocolates will be flying off the shelves.

But spare a thought for singletons like myself, who have to endure the most romantic day of the year, alone. But with a little imagination and a change in attitude, you can find plenty of advantages to being unattached on February 14th:

Singletons unite

There's no better distraction from being single than spending the most loved-up day of the year with other people in the same boat. Whether you bond over cocktails or simply agree that the day is a marketing gimmick, Valentine's on your own doesn't need to be mopey. I often spend the day with my fellow single friends bingeing on rom-coms, quoting our favourite lines.

No relationship status

If, like me, you spend most of your time on social media, then you know that Valentine's Day is the worst day for couples who like to overshare. Now I don't begrudge anyone their happiness, but there's another level of pressure to find 'the one' when there's a constant newsfeed of love. You could just switch your computer off, of course. But if the thought of shutting off all social media for a day gives you major FOMO, why not use the opportunity to provide yourself and others with much-needed laughs?

Share a meme depicting those 'sad' singletons spending their Valentine's at home alone, listening to Adele with an accompanying glass of wine. Or better yet, make one yourself to let everyone know you're in on the joke.

Treat February 14 like any other day

One year, my sister and I decided to go see Evita and treat ourselves to a meal beforehand. We couldn't understand why it was so difficult to get tickets or even make a reservation in a restaurant, having completely forgotten that the day we'd picked to go out was in fact Valentine's Day. We were even more perplexed after making the restaurant reservation when the manager responded "how romantic" to our evening plans. After hours of headscratching, we finally twigged our mistake. See? I told you it was just like any other day.


While I have yet to spend Valentine's Day on a date, I can honestly say I don't feel I am missing out. Isn't it better to enjoy love for its own sake, than to celebrate it on a set day of the year? Anyway, while those loved-up couples are fretting about how best to spend this Sunday, or trying to book an over-priced meal in a crowded restaurant, I'd rather relax in the company of friends - or even by myself. There's something liberating about not worrying about Valentine's expectations and simply focusing on yourself instead.

No pressure

While many couples denounce Valentine's Day as a marketing gimmick, the pressure and expectation that it brings every year still remain. If you're in a relationship, you can't escape the fact that you're expected to buy something for that significant other in your life. There's nothing like wasting 30 minutes stressing over finding an appropriate card or gift for your new boyfriend.

So a stress-free Valentine's Day? That sounds good to me.


All those cards and bouquets can add up. Ignoring the holiday is not an option for some, and with this Valentine's falling on a weekend, the pressure is on to do something really special.

So I'll happily spend my day alone, while saving a few bob in the process.

Treat Yourself

With all the stress that can come from buying gifts for others, we sometimes forget to treat ourselves. So whether you're planning a night with friends or just some much-needed pampering, spend what you would have spent on a Valentine's date on yourself for a change.

Loved up

While I still maintain that spending Valentine's Day solo isn't as horrible as often depicted, it's still an opportune time to show someone special in your life that you care.

It doesn't have to be all about the romance, it can be the perfect opportunity to let friends and family know how much they mean to you. A simple thank you can make all the difference to the people you really care about. Happy singleton's day!

Irish Independent

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