'I made peace with the fact that I may never be in a relationship or have children' - Sile Seoige on her family joy
Sile Seoige has spoken candidly about becoming a new mother, saying she "made peace with the fact that I may never be in a relationship or have children".
The popular broadcaster (39) said she had come to terms with the fact family might not be for her before she met her new fiancé Damien O'Farrell in 2015. At that stage in her life, she had given up on love.
"I had done a lot soul searching and I had genuinely made peace with the fact that I may never be in a relationship of have children. I suppose time was also ticking on too. But I also don't believe that you have to be in a relationship or have children to be defined as a woman. I think there are many ways of expressing creativity and feminine energy," she told the May issue of VIP magazine.
"I really believe that and I'm saying that as a woman with a fiancé, that sounds so funny, and a child now."
Seoige was previously married to Glen Mulcahy for three years and later in a relationship with RTE floor manager Kim Burrows.
She went on to praise her partner of three years for being so "hands on" with their eight-month-old son Cathal.
"I'm very lucky, I suppose you just don't know how it's going to go because we haven't done this before, but from the get-go, Damien has been brilliant. I hope I'm not revealing too much by saying this, but he was also an incredible birthing partner," she said.
"I don't know how he did it, but he managed to make the back of the car really comfortable on the journey to the Coombe Hospital, even though I was like a wild caged animal roaring!
"I think he's one of those guys who was just destined to be a dad."
Last year, Sile was given the 'all clear' after being diagnosed with thyroid cancer in 2012, and the diagnosis gave her a new lease of life - she says she appreciates every moment now all the more.
As for how she's adjusting to new motherhood, she told Independent.ie last month that she is just "doing her best" and prefers to be in the moment.
"You just do your best. Some days you feel like you’re nailing motherhood, other days you feel like you’re making a bit of a mess of it, but I think that’s just the way it is, and you’re kind of just on this constant hamster wheel of feeling like you’re having guilty moments and proud moments, and everything-in-between moments, so you’re just doing your best," she said.
"I really try and put the phone away when I’m with him. I don’t always succeed, sometimes you have to answer your phone for your work, but I’m really aware that right now I’m trying to limit technology and certainly in the evening, we don’t watch TV anymore, the telly is off.
"We’re just turning off all stimulus as well when it comes to a certain time of the evening. I rarely have the TV on at home during the day."