Tuesday 19 November 2019

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Relationship counsellor Lisa O'Hara (mindandbodyworks.com) explains what to consider before reuniting with a former love-interest...

Know what you want:

Ask yourself what you are hoping to achieve from the reunion. You need to be clear in your own mind what your relationship priorities are before taking the plunge for a second time. If your partner can't give you what you need, it's time to walk away.

Communication is key:

Talk, talk, talk! Be open to what your partner wants to say to you. Listen carefully and adopt a non-defensive approach.

Don't bury your head in the sand:

It's tempting just to ignore the elephant in the room - you hope blindly that it will go away but it won't. So make sure you both know what has been left unresolved after your time apart and seek professional help if you're not making progress.

Nobody's perfect:

The minute things don't go to plan, you might feel like throwing your hands in the air and packing your bags again. But it's far more important that both parties are committed and working hard to improve their relationship than focusing on small slip-ups. So be patient.

Irish Independent

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