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"I have a close friend in her 30s who has never had an orgasm either with a man or on her own."

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Dear Mary: My friend can’t orgasm with a man or by herself. How can I help her?

I have a close friend in her 30s who has never had an orgasm — either with a man or on her own. She says she doesn’t mind, that she enjoys sex and has tried to masturbate but with no success. She isn’t in a long-term relationship at the moment, but over the years she has had a couple of them.

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Dear Mary: My friend can’t orgasm with a man or by herself. How can I help her?

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