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Breaking up is hard to do, even without 'friends' getting involved

A LITTLE quote from Andrew Lloyd Webber's The Phantom of the Opera: "None of us can choose where we will love."

But my God, doesn't that make life rather complicated. The unlikely coupling of Nancy Dell'Olio and celebrated director Sir Trevor Nunn is rumoured to have ended his marriage to actress Imogen Stubbs (below) earlier this year.

A new twist in the tale is that the former Lady Nunn has just returned home following a romantic holiday in Corfu with actor, writer and director Jonathan Guy Lewis.

JGL is also married with a 15-year-old son and, apparently, 'friends of the family' have now become involved as spokespeople, such is the distress being experienced by the immediate family over the relationship.


Imogen (50) is said to have moved in to a rented dwelling in West London with former Soldier Soldier star Guy Lewis two months ago, having first met him when they starred opposite each other in a play in 2009.

Those with ringside seats, ie the aforementioned 'friends of his family', are finding it hard to believe that Jonathan (48) left his wife, the actress Miranda Foster.

The son losing a full-time father is not uppermost in their minds, however, as the 'friends of the family' make the following point: "Miranda is a perfect size 8 and a hell of a lot more attractive than Imogen. No one can explain what he sees in her." Ouch!

People rarely fall in love based on the basis of looks and dress size alone, and these situations are complicated for everyone involved.

'Friends of the family' are also best staying out of it. Break-ups, particularly where children are involved, are always messy and hurtful and only those on the 'inside' ever really know the reasons why such a destructive event actually happens.

Imogen and Sir Trevor broke up in April of this year after almost 17 years of marriage.

Meanwhile, his romance with Nancy Dell'Olio looks shaky after she elected to celebrate her 50th birthday in Italy without him.


Long-term love is always full of ups and downs over the years, it's part and parcel of nurturing a durable relationship. Who knows if all this running off with other people will make any of the parties happy? It does, of course, make for fascinating reading, but if I didn't have faith in the longevity of some relationships -- like my parents -- I might just run off and join a convent!

> dee o'keeffe