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‘I’d break both your legs’ says Tubridy to wife beater on air

VETERAN broadcaster Ryan Tubridy told a self-confessed wife beater he would have broken both his legs, during an interview on his radio show.

The comment was made as the 2fm presenter was talking to a man called Chris, who was convicted for beating his wife.

After listening to the story, Mr Tubridy struggled to keep his composure before telling the man what he would do if his sister, daughter or mother were ever treated in the way described by Chris.

“I’m trying to be really measured here,” he said.

“We appreciate you coming on to tell the story and yet every time, if you did that to somebody I loved I swear to god I would have personally called over and broken both your legs, I’m not going to lie to you.

“I know that’s violent and I know it’s wrong but I think it’s man to man,” he added.

Chris talked in graphic terms about the circumstances that led to his sentence of 12 months probation, 100 hours community service and a fine of £150.

“I was convicted in the UK 20 years ago of domestic violence.

“It was physical violence, there was none of the sexual side of things,” Chris told the programme.

“In my case, and other people that I know about, what happens is that very little gets done to the perpetrator other than meted out punishment.

“There’s no form, usually, of any recommendations for therapies or behavioural treatments and I feel that’s something that desperately needs to be done,” he added.

Chris said that he was a young married man, aged 23, when he started abusing his wife.

“There’s the verbal side of the abuse, which obviously many of the victims will tell you that, that’s as cutting as the physical side.

Therapy

“But you know there would be the verbal side, then there would be slaps, punches, you know, pretty much along those lines really,” he said.

He said that after the abusive events throughout his marriage, he went through two years of therapy and cognitive behaviour treatment to recognise the reasons behind what he had done.

“Sometimes there will be something in your psyche and you will just pick a fight and it will lead to the violence and other times it can be something that’s said that just triggers you in the wrong way and you’ll just lash out.

“There’s kind of no thought process behind it, it’s almost an instinctual thing that you then, if you do it and you go through the therapy, you have to learn how not to do it,” he added.

Chris said that he would defend his actions by saying things like “you made me do it” and “you brought this on yourself”.

“After you’ve calmed down all of the sorrow and all of the remittance comes about and I’ll never do it again and there’s tearsm,” he said.

“It’s very difficult to say which one is the real you at the time.”

lbynre@independent.ie


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