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How to deal with a mild rule-breaker

• Parents should try to pick their battles carefully so that they are not fighting over everything and not limiting their child's ability to self-manage.

But if rules are broken daily it may mean there are too many rules or a lack of flexibility in how they are being applied.

• It could equally mean the child is pushing too much or responding to negative influences in their social world.

• When there's constant rule-breaking, the parent needs to take stock, decide what is necessary and fair and talk to their child about responsibility, respect and safety.

• While parents and teachers need to encourage exploration in terms of play, the expressions of ideas and in new experiences, children need to learn that we often have to cooperate to survive.

• Rules are often for safety or the common good and young people have to learn how to challenge in a way that is respectful to other people's values.