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It's cruel of a parent to reveal a favourite

DAD Buzz Bishop thinks he's more honest than most parents. Posting on his blog, he admitted the unthinkable, that he has a favourite child. The candid post went viral and caused much discussion among anxious and outraged parents everywhere.

In the blog, the Canadian states: "If I were to be absolutely honest, my older son is my favourite of the two. He and I are adventurous partners in crime and I can't imagine life without him."

When Buzz saw the furore his comment caused he wrote a follow-up and refused to back down: "Yes, I have a favourite son and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I'm guessing you could look deep in the mirror and admit you have a favourite too."

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He explains that he doesn't love one son more than the other, but prefers his eldest because he can do more things. "I've admitted that while I loved my sons the minute they were born, I didn't really fall in love with them until they could do stuff."

'Stuff', according to Buzz, includes running, kicking balls and playing, and it's easy to see why someone might find their child more engaging when they become more interactive.

But there's a huge difference between saying you prefer your child as a five-year-old and saying you prefer them to their brother.

As parents, we all enjoy different stages of our kids' development.

Buzz admits to finding the baby years boring; others love that time when their little bundles snuggle up to them so trustingly.

Some find three-year-olds the cutest, when their imaginations run wild and they create fantastical stories and games.

Other parents most enjoy the point where their kids reach adolescence and start expressing their views as young teenagers.

Buzz urges us all to be more honest and admit we have a favourite child, too.

Jeffrey Kluger, a TIME magazine writer, backs up this theory in his book The Sibling Effect, where he writes: "It is my belief that 95pc of the parents in the world have a favourite child, and the other per cent are lying."

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When Kluger's book was published, a US website surveyed 26,000 mums, with one in five (19pc) admitting to having a favourite. The anonymity of the online poll allpwed for greater honesty.

Comments from angered readers of www.buzzbishop.com include: "I know just how it feels to be the second-class kid and it stays with you forever" and "I was the favourite child and it is awful and causes more pain and heartache".

US research also suggests middle children are less likely to be the favourite, unless they are the only son or daughter.

Studies also show that fathers' favourites are more likely to be their youngest daughter, while mums are more likely to favour their oldest son.

One can only hope that Buzz Bishop's second son will grow up feeling as loved as his older brother and never know of his father's naive writings.

Ultimately his dad's crime isn't preferring the company of one child over the other, it's publicly declaring this preference to the rest of the world.


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