EASE -- is that not the ultimate goal of any relationship, be it romantic or platonic? So why do so many people seem to crave drama?
Ease is the state of being comfortable; freedom from pain or discomfort; freedom from care; freedom from labour or difficulty; freedom from embarrassment or constraint.
This is my definition of bliss.
Yet so many people have an inexplicable need to invite friction and chaos in to their lives.
Some even enjoy witnessing it in other people's lives.
Mark Croft's disparaging remarks about his estranged wife Kerry Katona in a recent interview made for uncomfortable reading and, for me in any case, was a perfect example that there are totally uncivilised humans out there.
The former couple, who have two young children together, have had more downs than ups, all played out in public. Even now, having had a good hand in helping the former Atomic Kitten blow her millions on pointless cars, etc and leaving her bankrupt, the attention junkie cannot resist putting the public boot in to her already winded tummy.
She's no angel herself but by anyone's standards he seemed to be more in control throughout their tumultuous time together.
Her health issues, coupled with a difficult upbringing, marks her out as eternally vulnerable.
"Always with the drama" was one of the most frequently used sayings in The Sopranos and, realistically, life was a little bit too fraught for that fictional family.
I hold my hands up and admit that with my first boyfriend I was something of a drama queen myself. Always looking for trouble and rows where there were none to speak of.
But I was 20 when we were together. We broke up. I grew up, and my first love is still one of my No 1 friends.
These days eating cheese and crackers while watching episodes of Columbo or Morse is more than enough to keep me happy.
This doesn't make me easy -- just smart.