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In praise of dating an older man

I have two little rules in my head: no one younger than me and no one who can fit into my jeans. Rules, of course, are made to be broken and I did, in fact, partake of a younger man back in the day. Not Mrs Robinson style, as there were only a few years between us, plus, he did, and still does, have an old soul, a brilliant sense of humour and a sound head on his shoulders.

It didn't work out but, nevertheless, it was worth a try. Some years down the road I can say that it seems like this little detour was the exception rather than the rule, and I am currently with someone who is quite a bit older than myself.

I'm not saying it's always going to be right between the two of us, but what I am saying is that preferring the company of older people didn't happen over night, and it is an instinctive choice on my part, particularly when it comes to romantic relationships.

Catherine Zeta-Jones says that the secret to her blissful marriage with Hollywood legend Michael Douglas is the fact that they have separate bathrooms.

It's a very valid point, which in fairness most couples should, if practical, consider, but perhaps the 25-year age difference might have something to do with their 'happy out' level too.

He'd probably had his 'experimental' years done and dusted years by the time they met and, let's face it, strong women such as CZJ need a man with experience to stand up to them. And, even if she won't admit this, I will hold my own hands up and confirm that most 19-year-old men I've met wouldn't exactly bring out the best in me.

It simply doesn't work out for most folks the way it seems to have done for the pregnant artist Sam Taylor Wood and her 19-year-old fiance Aaron Johnson.

Best of luck to them, but I am sticking with my older guy. For now.


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