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How can we cope with visits from our daughter’s violent ex?

Dear Virginia, Our daughter has had two children by a man who turned out to be a violent bully. Halfway through her second pregnancy she left him to live with us.

The trouble is, his constant visits to see the children are unbearable for me -- and her. And yet we are frightened to let him take the children out on his own. While my daughter has escaped daily life with him, we are saddled with him all our lives. It seems the law is an ass. Is there any way around this?

Yours sincerely, Geraldine