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Don't cry for a 40-something single gal just living her life

Jennifer Aniston. Still single. At 41. Shock. Horror. Sigh. The poor wee thing.

Her former husband is busy having - what appears to the outside, mainly sane world to be - a tricky, often turbulent relationship with a beautiful yet extremely complicated woman intent on adopting children at the same rate that Mia Farrow did.

Yet, we're supposed to feel sorry for Jen and her more pedestrian lifestyle. Sorry. Not feelin' that one. The actress and former Friends star seems to be rather enjoying herself. This week she was pictured relaxing with friends, including the gorgeous Gerard Butler, in Mexico to celebrate her birthday.

While she famously fell out with her mother, her loyal friends have always 'had her back'. Further more, Pitt's own mother has clearly remained devoted to Aniston and is still in contact with her former daughter-in-law.

If the situation was reversed and Jen had hooked up with a hot new man on the heels of a break-up, while Brad remained resolutely single, people really wouldn't speculate or think 'poor lonely Brad'. He'd just become the new George Clooney: gorgeous but unwilling to settle down again.

What people really don't get is that not every woman, particularly one who has been through what Aniston went through, in the full glare of the media when her marriage collapsed, is all that keen to settle down.

And not every gal has marriage on her mind.

Of course, human nature is such that most of us would like to create a loving, lasting and committed relationship. But 'most' is the key word here.

"There are those of us who are always about to live. We are waiting until things change, until there is more time, until we are less tired, until we get a promotion, until we settle down/until, until, until. It always seems as if there is some major event that must occur in our lives before we begin living," said physician and author George Sheehan. Smart guy.