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A million ways to ease the pain of divorce

Is there a woman who hasn't suffered the humiliation of discovering a man she has feelings for isn't all she thought he was?

So it's natural to feel empathy for duped wives Yvonne Keating and Elin Nordegren. And with Frasier star Kelsey Grammer's ending of his marriage of 12 years to Camille Donatacci, and swiftly following it with news that his new squeeze, air hostess Kayte Walsh, is pregnant, it's safe to assume that former model Donatacci is feeling woefully betrayed on some level, too.

Yet, is there a limit to our sensitivity to their heartache, and will it dry up when their million-euro divorce payments come rolling in?

Yvonne Keating's pain following her husband of 12 years, Boyzone star Ronan, cheating on her has been keenly felt by observers watching her struggle to cope with revelations about her philandering husband.

Yet will we still feel for Yvonne should she jet off to the Bahamas in a few weeks time to console herself with some of the €7m it has been estimated the former model will receive in a settlement should she head to the divorce courts?

Dejected Elin has admitted she never suspected golfing genius Tiger Woods was cheating on her, and went "through hell" after finding out that he had been unfaithful.

Speaking about her marriage with Woods, which recently ended in divorce, Elin said she felt "blindsided" and "embarrassed" when she found out about the golf superstar's multiple infidelities.

She said: "I never suspected. For the last three-and-a-half years, when all this was going on, I was home a lot more with pregnancies, then the children and my school."

At home with her two babies and studying to be a child psychologist, Elin placed her trust in her husband, Tiger, who duly went and had it off with every busty blonde who would have him. What a cad, we all thought.

Yet will the news that former swimwear model Elin has received in the region of €78m in a divorce settlement make us feel less pity on her behalf?

It's reported Elin, still young at 30, also got a house in Florida and a home in Sweden as part of her pay-off.

You wouldn't wish dastardly men and divorce on any woman, yet is there a chance we have a pity-by-date for the blonde former wives of celebrities who get big divorce payouts in these debt-ridden and recessionary times?

Frasier star Grammer stunned fans recently by separating from his third wife, former Playboy model Donatacci, after nearly 13 years of marriage.

Soon-to-be ex-wife Camille, who will appear on the TV series Real Housewives of Beverly Hills later this year, is seeking joint legal custody and primary custody of the couple's two children. She is also petitioning for spousal support.

While it is horrible to be so quickly replaced, will we feel the same sympathy for Camille now she has a lifetime guarantee of being able to swathe herself in bling while lounging by the pool at Chateau Marmont in Los Angeles?

Grammer is said to be worth €43m, and it is estimated that his divorce from ex-nude model Camille will cost him €15m.

We'll never know what really went on in the marriages of these high-profile couples, yet we can make a good stab at imagining the pain and devastation felt by the women involved based on the crushing feeling we all experience when betrayed.

We can imagine the late nights spent numbly watching telly, the long chats with friends which dissolve into unedifying whinge fests, and the rants against the unfairness of life. And the gutted feeling that if your best friend in the world has let you down, how will you ever trust anyone again?

It's why we've been feeling so sorry for Yvonne and Elin, because their love stories ended unfairly and abruptly. And while we're not sure what happened between Kelsey and Camille, we can guess the former model has been left feeling pretty bruised.

It will be nice to think we can remain sympathetic towards these disappointed women, as they have been through a nightmare nobody would wish on anybody. Yet when the compensation/ consolation for their emotional distress runs into millions, will we instead begin to think "ah, they'll get over it"?

As some of the divorce payouts are so large you could buy a small island, is there a chance we will begin to think "sure, what have they to be feeling sorry for themselves about?"

Is there a chance that being blonde and beautiful and betrayed is tragic -- yet being blonde and beautiful with a bountiful divorce settlement is, well, rather a nice new beginning?


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