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Dear Rosanna: Should I get vajazzled to please my new boyfriend?

Q WHERE do you draw the line at what you'll do to keep your man happy? Mine wants me to get vajazzled. He's seen it on one of those TV shows like TOWIE and says he wants to see what it would look like on me.

I've had a Brazilian for him, after he insisted everyone was having them, and then a Hollywood. He's always talking about some celebrity or other who has had a boob job, so I'm wondering if that's next on his request list. Should I just say no to the vajazzle, which would save me money, and stop him in his tracks?

A There's a big difference between getting a vajazzle or a certain type of wax and forking out thousands for the invasive surgery of a boob job. I actually see no harm in experimenting with a vajazzle as it's a harmless bit of fun, it won't be painful and it will satisfy your boyfriend's curiosity.

Obviously don't ever agree to anything that you feel uncomfortable with, and I very much doubt that he would try to force you into getting a boob job considering the pain and expense. If you're both in agreement about something, then I see nothing wrong with trying it out.

Q I hooked up with my boyfriend at the beginning of the college year and he recently announced he is off to San Francisco to work during the summer. He told me not to worry, as he loves me and will not be unfaithful to me while he's there. My friends in college tell me that being good and faithful is not what a working summer is all about. Should I just break it up with him now and save myself the humiliation of being cheated on?

A You're facing a difficult decision. If he tells you he will be faithful to you, then I should see no reason to disbelieve him. Surely he would suggest ending the relationship or taking a break over the summer if he had plans for it to be a wild few months.

So I would advise that you don't make any decisions in that respect based on what your friends assume. The fact that you'll both have to deal with a long-distance relationship would be more of a concern to me.

I would suggest that you explain your every worry to him and try to come up with a mutual agreement or compromise which will put both your minds at ease and ensure you both have a great summer to look forward to.

Perhaps you could arrange to fly over to the US and spend some time with him? Just don't let pre-conceived ideas about what such summers are supposed to entail dictate the demise of your relationship.

Q I'm a 34-year-old man, married with two young children, and our family budget has been strained in recent years, what with cutbacks in wages and higher prices for everything.

My wife and I have decided to allow ourselves a treat each week, as life can't be all about doom and gloom.

My problem is that my treat tends to be a good bottle of wine, while hers is a pricey face cream, or perfume, or expensive lipstick. You will appreciate how much these cost. I've tried pointing out that she could get something cheaper, but she starts wailing about the definition of a treat.

A I appreciate the situation you're in. Feeding your family and ensuring bills are looked after are your main priorities, but I do agree with you that it's important to treat yourself every so often.

So I think that this is really a question of compromise and maturity. My advice to allow you both to enjoy the treats you want is to set aside the whole amount you can afford between you for the week and take it in turns to spend it. If your wife spends more one week, then it seems only fair that you should be allowed to buy a pricier bottle of wine the next.