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Dear Rosanna: I need to get over my broken heart fast

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Rosanna Davison pictured at The Candlelight Bar Summer Party at Siam Thai Dundrum Town Centre in aid of The Ispca
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Rosanna Davison pictured at The Candlelight Bar Summer Party at Siam Thai Dundrum Town Centre in aid of The Ispca Picture:Brian McEvoy No repro fee for one use

Rosanna Davison pictured at The Candlelight Bar Summer Party at Siam Thai Dundrum Town Centre in aid of The Ispca Picture:Brian McEvoy No repro fee for one use

Dealing with a broken heart, skin breakouts and not being on Facebook are among this week's problems

I recently got dumped from a five-year relationship. From this vantage point I can see that it has been coming for a long time as we weren't getting on but it doesn't stop me from feeling hurt and unlovable - I actually thought we would get married, have children etc.

I had all these assumptions about my life and now the ground has shifted and nothing feels safe. It doesn't help that he has started dating immediately and that I am in my 30s - so having children is time sensitive for me.

Someone told me it takes seven years to get over a heart break. I don't have seven years so how can I get over this quickly?

I can really appreciate how difficult a situation this is for you because you had your future decided and the boxes ticked. But if this wasn't the right person for you, then I do think that it was better to break up than face a divorce in the future, especially with kids involved.

Time really is a healer, but as your ex has moved on then I think that it's important that you get into the mindset that the relationship is in the past and it's time to look to your future.

My advice is to focus on yourself for a while, make sure you're feeling strong and independent, and then think about meeting somebody new. The worst thing you can do is to rush into a rebound relationship and face even more heartbreak down the line.

Is it true that sugar can cause skin breakouts? I've tried so many lotions and potions for a clear complexion and they don't work. My mum says that I have to address the problem from the inside out and overhaul my diet, give up sweets and chocolate, which I love.

I'm a girl my 20s and never had any problems when I was a teen. I can also eat what I like without putting on weight so I'd really have to motivate myself to change my diet - is my mum right?

Good skincare certainly does play a role in acne prevention, and many of us can be allergic to certain synthetic, oily or perfumed products. But your mum is definitely correct in telling you that healthy skin begins inside, and more specifically in our digestive system.

Our skin is our largest organ, and is a reflection of what is going on within us. Our digestive system is the gateway from the outside world into our blood, tissues, and cells. Plus it contains even more bacteria than we have body cells, so it's of utmost importance to ensure that they're the 'friendly' type.

My advice is to start with a good daily probiotic capsule to boost your healthy gut flora. Then really examine your diet and look to greatly reduce or preferably eliminate processed foods, fried foods, white flour and sugar. Dairy products have also shown up in scientific studies to be linked to acne and skin breakouts, but they're very easy to replace with calcium-fortified plant milks.

Fill up on lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, slow-release carbs and lean protein. Finally, drink at least two litres of water a day, make time to relax and reduce stress, get plenty of exercise and make sure you use clean towels and pillow cases to reduce any chance of bacterial infection from them.

I'm pretty much the only person in my group of friends (male and female, all in our 20s, I'm female) not on Facebook and all my pals keep urging me to join - there's always a temptation but to be honest they are only swapping pictures, liking things and passing information and links on.

The only thing I miss out on is the occasional night out or being immediately clued in about some funny item they all shared. It actually bothers them that I'm not on Facebook but I kind of like being independent of it - should I join to keep them quiet?

I really admire you for keeping way from social media and maintaining some privacy in your life. Facebook and other forums certainly have their benefits, particularly if you're promoting a product or brand.

But when it's just your own life to splash about the internet, then it makes sense to keep it for yourself. Facebook can be a lot of fun, but it also places unnecessary pressure on you and others. It's easy to create an online profile to only show the most glamorous and exciting aspects of our lives and never admit to the stress, worry and other problems that crop up for each and every one of us.

So this can often make others feel inadequate.

My advice is to avoid Facebook if you're perfectly happy without it, and stay in touch with friends and family by phone. Pay no attention to their pleas, and they'll respect you more for standing your ground. Social media also wastes a lot of our precious time.


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