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Out! and about: 07/01/2010

I love catching up with people who I haven't seen in ages.

Last weekend I met up with a girl who I hadn't heard from in ten years. She has just got divorced and was really depressed. She had married a homo, but it wasn't that the guy had the realisation after he got married. No, her husband had been actively engaging in homosexual behaviour since he was a teenager and during their entire five-year marriage. It blew my mind that some of her female friends, who were at the wedding, knew that the guy was gay.

There are few occasions when I can't empathise with other people. At times, I have even been able to identify with acts of murder. But the more I thought about this situation, the more I realised that I could not understand this homo man from any perspective. How can any man have a realisation about his sexuality in his mid-30s? This man's only reason to hide his sexuality was for his family and for the sake of his career. The idea that a guy would actually use a woman to cover up his sexuality is totally spineless.

Perhaps, if it was a couple of decades ago, or if the guy wanted to have children and was earnest about trying to keep things straight, then maybe.

But in this case, I couldn't get my head around it. What a creep. I know other homos who wanted to hide their sexuality from their families -- mainly for religious reasons -- but they at least had the integrity to find a homo woman and come to a mutually beneficial arrangement. Indeed, one couple I know even have had children together. If any homo men out there reading this are considering marriage to hide their sexuality, I hope that they might consider the impact it might have on their wife and consider the alternatives ...

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