Sunday 22 April 2018

De-stress, find your balance, feel happy

There are many things you can do to de-stress
There are many things you can do to de-stress

Calodagh McCumsikey - Wellbeing & Meditation

Modern life can be stressful. There are so many weapons of mass-distraction. When you are stressed, the most important thing is to get back to balance as soon as you can. Stressed people always want everything to happen now. Meaningful and long-lasting solutions come when our minds are not focussing on the problem or stressed but are balanced and open.

How to achieve this is to develop ways to find balance daily. There are many ways to do this. The most important thing is to find ways that work for you.

One of the best ways I know of is to meditate which I am always recommending. This brings you back to balance. Stress is 'an upset to your physical, mental or emotional balance' which happens to most of us regularly. This is normal. The problem comes when we do not restore balance at regular intervals and remain stressed-often being in the fright, flight or fight mode for long periods of time. This leads to crippling fear, emotional paralysis, anxiety, depression, inertia, exhaustion and dis-ease.

Stressed people make poor choices which adds to their stress. They do not think things through and say yes to things that with more reflection they should probably not do. They also say no to things that might benefit them but because they are stressed and in fear mode, they avoid. When we are stressed, it is difficult to feel joy and enjoy.

There are many resourceful things you can do to de-stress. One of the easiest I know of which can be done almost anywhere is: Close your eyes-put one hand on your chest and one on your stomach and breathe. In your mind, say 'I am breathing in' as you breathe in and as you breathe out say 'I am breathing out'.

Don't try and control your breath. Go according to the natural rhythm. Feel it.

Do this for 10 breaths a few times a day - or for as many breaths as it takes to restore balance. It may take time to concentrate but you will be able to with practice.

Change your mind-set. Don't feed stressful thoughts to your mind. Be hopeful. Frame your thinking to invite and allow solutions to problems or worries. Spend time doing things you love. Spend time with children. They are great teachers for being in the moment. Spend time in nature - exercising, walking and seeing the beauty. This naturally connects us and lifts our mood.

Set goals that excite, challenge and inspire you and move towards them every day. Think positively. Surround yourself with people that encourage you to be well and your best. Read empowering and encouraging books. Eat energizing and healthy food. Have a positive morning routine. Never gossip. Be loving and compassionate towards yourself. When you are trying to do new things, do not expect every step to be 100 percent successful.

Doing new things brings up discomfort and fear. It challenges. Acknowledge and learn from mistakes. Don't condemn yourself for them. When we are developing new muscles to do new things in life, it takes time. Persistence pays. Help others. Smile. Happiness comes when you are focussed and connected.

The most important thing when you have too much stress is to recognize the early warning signs and slow down. Find ways of reducing the stress in your life and the thoughts you are having that are adding to stress and increase the positivity and balance in your day.

Try some of these techniques this week. We'd love to hear how you are getting along.

Gorey Guardian