Sunday 16 June 2019

Be thoughtful of those who don't like or enjoy Christmas

Not everyone likes or enjoys Christmas
Not everyone likes or enjoys Christmas

Clair Whitty - Naturally Healthy

Christmas is not for everyone, I say this every year, and this year is no different. Some people love it, some people hate it.

There are many reasons why a person may not be interested in Christmas and are not returning your smile and excitement. It could be that they have lost someone, they might be lonely, there could be someone sick in the house, they could be sick themselves, separation, divorce, or there could be financial difficulties. Some choose not to celebrate it as it's not their particular religion, or maybe not their belief system. There are any number of reasons that a person might not be enjoying Christmas, we just need to be mindful of this.

I was talking to a man recently who said that he lost his younger sister over 25 years ago to suicide, he has never gotten over this and said that Christmas is always very difficult. He said that although it's a very sad time for him he chooses to make it a special time. He chooses to think about and value the people that are in his life. He takes the time to hug them and to appreciate them and to be grateful for them. He told me that this helps him. Maybe this would work for you too, but it doesn't have to be a hug - not everyone is a hugger. A smile, a touch, a knowing nod could have the same effect.

The conversation made me think that that is what I will do this Christmas. I nearly lost my mother a while ago, it was close. Now I have an opportunity to appreciate her and love her, and to tell her how I feel, my father too. I know I do this every year, but I think this year it will have more meaning, having nearly lost her. Hopefully I will have many more years together with my parents.

Christmas is clearly not for everyone for various reasons, so maybe the next time someone doesn't smile back at you or have the same enthusiasm about it, we should spare a thought for them. It could be that it's just not a good time of year for them and they are finding it difficult.

I wish you all a Happy Christmas.

Drogheda Independent