Robert started and ended day singing
Obituary: Robert Menary - 1992-2019
The untimely and very sad death occurred of Robert Menary, 43 An Chearnog, Toberona on 27 January, 2019.
Robert was aged 26, and the youngest of five children of Joe and Kathleen Menary. He was a popular figure who simply loved singing, starting and ending his day with a song, and had a great bond with his family.
He was practically gifted and would take on any task. He wouldn’t give up until he had it sorted. He left a lasting impression on everybody he met, not least his teachers although not being the strongest academically.
Robert was a man who walked everywhere and his family learned over his wake he was known always for his good form. He never passed without stopping for a chat when he met anybody on the street. He easily made friends. All it took was him to meet you once and he was a friend for life. He had an outgoing and kind nature and was known for his distinctive wave.
He lived most of his life in the Toberona area. He attended the local Saint Joseph’s School, and from there went to Ó Fiaich College.
He engaged in gardening and landscaping and worked for a time in Castlebellingham where he made close friends and local people had fond memories of him. There is a strong tradition of music in his family, his older family members having sung publicly.
Robert was clearly endowed with no small measure of that gift. The level that he possessed was demonstrated when he performed a rendition of the folk song ‘Noreen Bawn’ at a commemoration ceremony at the Fairgreen, Dundalk, that went viral and attracted 35,000 views on Facebook. The song was his party piece.
He had a preference for older Irish music, playing CDs repeatedly with songs by his favourite singers, including Joe Dolan and internationally Roy Orbison. He also loved the choice of music played by Hugo Duncan on radio. He also had a love for the modern music of Michael Buble.
Robert relished the opportunity to perform karaoke style, and was always ready to sing at family occasions at which he was the life and soul of the party.
He had a close and strong affinity with his family, and loved babysitting his nephews and nieces. It was always a special occasion when niece Caitlin and nephew Patrick came home from England to visit.
He loved cooking and experimenting with food, but also had a love for Asian food, Chinese being his favourite. He took pride in his appearance and liked to look and feel well when going out and took time to spruce up beforehand.
The death of his precious son Carson in January 2017 was heartbreaking for Robert and profoundly life changing. He struggled to come to terms with this loss and now his all too soon parting has plunged his family back into deep grief again.
His is very sadly missed by his loving parents, Joe and Kathleen; brothers, John (New Zealand) and Christopher; sisters, Kelly (England) and Joanne; sister-in-law, Donna; brother-inlaw, Anthony; nephews, nieces and other relatives and friends. After reposing at home on the Wednesday and Thursday, Robert was removed to Saint Joseph’s Church, Castletown. Father Vinod celebrated Requiem Mass following which burial took place in Saint Patrick’s cemetery, Dowdallshill, with his beloved son Carson.
Symbols of Robert’s life were laid before the altar for the Mass by nieces and nephews, Leah, Ashlinn, Levi and PJ.
These included a picture of Robert and Carson, along with a family picture, a school work book and a microphone. Friend Darren McGee explained their significance in Robert’s life. The Readings were given by sister, Kelly; brothers, John and Christophe;r and sister-in-law, Donna; while the Prayers of the Faithful were led by brother-in-law, Anthony; friends, Sean and Pauline; aunt, Jane and cousin, Denise.
The Offertory gifts were presented by parents, Joe and Kathleen, sister, Joanne and family friend, Kathleen. His brother John read a beautiful eulogy written by his family and his sister Kelly read two poems about Robert written by herself and Robert’s mum Kathleen.