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There is power in getting used to your children during lockdown in a way you realise you weren't before

Brendan O'Connor


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Brendan O'Connor. Photo: Andres Poveda

Brendan O'Connor. Photo: Andres Poveda

Andres Poveda

Brendan O'Connor

Brendan O'Connor

Flashback: getting the top off a boiled egg

Flashback: getting the top off a boiled egg

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Brendan O'Connor. Photo: Andres Poveda

I think I speak for many of the fathers when I say that we are secretly glad of some aspects of this time. Indeed I'm sure I speak for many of the mothers too. But today, for once, let's focus on the men (joking - relax). And of course I speak for nobody but me. But let me generalise, so that I can be more honest than I might be if I just put it all in the first person.

I think when we look back, if Covid didn't visit any horrors on us, we will perhaps, in future years, feel slightly grateful for some aspects of it.

You can know your kids, and feel you know them, and be right. You can think there couldn't be any more in the relationship, that you are being a good modern, emotionally available, open father, one who spends time with them, who takes an interest in their lives, who is close to them. And you can imagine that there is no more, that no more is possible. And then everyone can come home for a few months and you can discover that there are in fact other ways in which you can know people.