Quick on the trigger
Can we ever begin to heal trauma by hiding from it?
Trigger warning: the following column deals with the subject of trigger warnings and may present a trigger to certain people.
When I was in school, there was a tacit code of conduct that everyone observed when a classmate lost a loved one. If a classmate had, say, lost her father, you were expected to refrain from saying the word 'Dad' in her company. Otherwise you'd receive a sharp kick under the table.
This always struck me as silly carry-on, not least because the nudges and widening of eyes that generally went on around the bereaved girl seemed to highlight the unpleasantness that her classmates were desperately trying to avoid.