Wednesday 22 November 2017

Working it out: normal curves - that's men and women

Men think below their waistlines and have the emotional sophistication of a terrier on heat.
Men think below their waistlines and have the emotional sophistication of a terrier on heat.

John Masterson

I always get slightly irritated when someone explains something they do as illustrating the difference between men and women. Most times, they are displaying their prejudices rather than offering any explanation. It is almost always lazy thinking. And it usually masks a total ignorance about the real differences between men and women and how they are distributed among the sexes.

This particularly annoys me when the explanation is proferred referring to matters of the heart. Women, apparently, like conversation and intimacy and thoughtfulness etc. Men think below their waistlines and have the emotional sophistication of a terrier on heat. Or so it goes with varying degrees of complexity. The bottom line is always the same. Women have sophisticated complicated feelings. Men have scarcely evolved since Fred Flintstone.

This just plain does not match with the experience of the men and women I know. Or indeed my experience of those whom I love, or have loved, in my time. I know of women who could manage more intimacy with a pet dog than with a grown man. And men who are thoughtful, emotional, caring and could not even contemplate sex without an emotional connection based on conversation and laughter. I happened to have The Script's second album, Science and Faith, in the car this morning. One song after another about men, love, loss, and feelings. It rang much truer to me that the Venus and Mars rubbish.

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