Medb Ruane: First-child syndrome: how my mother-in-law got it so right . . . and I'm not joking
Soon after the birth of our first child, my mother-in-law sugg-ested that her beloved son sleep in the spare room so that he'd feel more rested. She was worried about him. I was incandescently annoyed.
This attack on our erotic intimacy, as I saw it, was an attempt to turn our great relationship into something everyday. Oh yeah, now we had a baby we were supposed to toe the line.
The worst (and least sensible) thing to do when dealing with first-baby effects is to blame the mother-in-law, but mine must have known in her gut the findings published by the ESRI/UCD this week, when they stated that a first baby can break rather than make a marriage.