Sunday 25 March 2018

Cheating is OK, but you're playing with fire if you fall in love

Men give a raw account of why they cheat. Yet they have very different rules for the women, writes Niamh Horan

Ashley Madison founder Noel Biderman
Ashley Madison founder Noel Biderman
Niamh Horan

Niamh Horan

The Ashley Madison scandal has blown open the world of extra-marital affairs. Men spoke with candour to the Sunday Independent about why they cheat on their wives. Their views may infuriate, but they say society isn't ready to be honest about infidelity.

One 42-year-old has been married for 14 years and regularly cheats, despite professing deep love for his wife. "Is [climaxing by yourself], looking at another woman on a porn website or movie, cheating? You're thinking about the other woman, so why not?

"I [orgasm by myself] to get rid of an urge. If I have sex with another bird, what's the difference? That's it. It's gone. It's over. Never to be thought of again. But because women are women, they don't believe a man can have sex and walk away. Actually, we can."

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