Saturday 18 November 2017

Brendan O'Connor: When a tear means goodbye

Vanessa Siatka, who was knocked down and killed just before her second birthday
Vanessa Siatka, who was knocked down and killed just before her second birthday
Brendan O'Connor

Brendan O'Connor

We all know the little fat tear of a child. Most of the time, when little children are crying, they're not really crying, just wailing at you. But when you see that little fat tear roll down a baby's cheek you know it's serious.

And something in us is programmed to react. And we want to make it okay. And we can usually make it okay somehow. Because we are big people, and we have that power. And usually, their little problems, or worries, or ouches, aren't a big deal. Because most little kids have little problems. They can seem insurmountable to them, because they often can't see past those problems in that moment. But really they are nothing. And we hold them for a minute, and it's okay. And then they are on to the next thing.

Katarzyna Siatka held her baby, her toddler, Vanessa. She ran to her baby when her baby was in distress and she held her. And Katarzyna said the things we all say from time to time. She told Vanessa that she loved her and everything would be okay, and her daddy was on the way.

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