Wednesday 21 August 2019

The loves of my life: Eimear Varian Barry


Blogger Eimear Varian Barry
Blogger Eimear Varian Barry

The Irish-born blogger, who is based in London, chats to Chloe Brennan about her favourite people, places and things.

The person

It would have to be my other half, Daniel. He puts up with me. It took me a few years to realise how much I need somebody who is as grounded as he is. We aren't married, but people presume we are all the time. I guess it's because we have three children and own a house together!

The memory

Looking through my dad's photography books in the front room, and getting lost in them. Isn't it fascinating how everything is deep within us from the beginning? I wouldn't read a full page of writing. But photos are a different story.

The moment of the day

Smelling my baby's head as I hold him and rock him to sleep. For me, there is nothing in the world like it. It's such an honour to have been given the opportunity to be a mother. Which is crazy even hearing that back, because there was a time in my life when I thought I never wanted kids.

The song

Fast Car by Tracy Chapman. Every single time I hear it, I bawl my eyes out. It's the most painful, beautiful song to listen to, isn't it?

The movie

It has to be The Notebook. I know that's so cliched, but I love it.

The book

It's What I Do: A Photographer's Life of Love and War by Lynsey Addario. I am obsessed with documentary photography, and Lynsey has an incredible eye for capturing raw life. Also, Poolside With Slim Aarons by Slim Aarons. I just want to live in his photos!

The accessory

A Louis Vuitton travel bag. I'm not that into luxury labels. My wardrobe is made up of high street; some high-end pieces I've had for years; items from independent stores; and lots of charity shop and vintage finds. But the Vuitton travel bag was something I'd wanted for ages. I was able to afford one at 32. When I bought it, I was on the verge of tears.

The holiday

We went to Mexico three years ago, and it was like a dream. There is nothing like a white sand beach with clear water tickling your toes. I love the people, the food, the music. Hopefully we'll be able to afford to go back someday soon. We're putting any money we have into the house at the moment. It'll be worth the wait!

The friend

Mallory from Mississippi, who let me sleep on her sofa for two years in New York. I always think to myself, "She didn't have to do it!" She epitomised that traditional Southern hospitality. I waitressed four days a week and worked on movie sets and in studios for the other three.

The hero

I've thought about this for a long time, and realised that I actually don't have one hero. There are a lot of people who have really inspired me in different ways. My dad, for always making me look at things differently and for being so content with the simplest things. Dr Oliver Sacks, who I've found so interesting since school, and who I ended up meeting on the street I lived on when I was in New York! Colm O'Sullivan, who was programme director at RedFM when I was 19 - he threw every opportunity at me and saw I had a bit of potential.

The outfit

A long, floaty summer dress.

The gadget

I created a career from my iPhone, so it has to be that!

The virtue

I am so aware of patience lately. It's one of the things I have to really work on with my mind and my body. It's everything.

The vice

Interrupting people. I get too excited, and I need to say it! It goes back to practicing patience.

The pet hate

People who are jealous of what they see on social media. Even though they know they can unfollow a profile they don't like, some people go out of their way to make you upset. It's horrible.

The part of my body

My non-flat tummy. I despise the obsession with it, especially on special media, and the torture people put themselves through to try and achieve what we have been conditioned to see as 'beautiful'. I was born with a bit more skin around that area. It's my body shape. There was a time where I would starve myself, dying to have a flat belly. The more miserable I was getting, the more I was emotionally eating. I am in a much better place nowadays . I know that I look better on the outside because I am happier on the inside.


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