Saturday 18 November 2017

No idea where your life is going? 15 signs you may be having a quarter-life crisis

Zosia Mamet, Lena Dunham, Jemima Kirke and Allison Williams, the central cast of HBO's Girls, a programme about four young women struggling through their quarter life crises
Zosia Mamet, Lena Dunham, Jemima Kirke and Allison Williams, the central cast of HBO's Girls, a programme about four young women struggling through their quarter life crises
HBO Girls is a series about 20-something girls working through their mid-life crises

Rachel Hosie

Ah, your mid-20s. What was once a settled period of contentment for many people has become a tumultuous time of confusing uncertainty for today's young adults, many of whom feel stuck in permanent adolescence.

Single with no chance of settling down any time soon? Miles away from ever being able to get a foot on the property ladder? No idea where your life is going? Welcome! You are in the prime position for a quarter-life crisis.

Fear not, though - everyone's having them so you'll be bang on trend.

You could be in the middle of one right now and not even know it. Here are the 15 signs you're having a quarter-life crisis:

1. You're starting to question what your purpose in life is. "Why did you put me on this earth, God? What is the point of my existence?" (In a less morbid way than it sounds.)

2. You're frustrated at not being able to figure out the answers to the above.

The cast of HBO's Girls, a programme about four young women struggling through their quarter life crises
The cast of HBO's Girls, a programme about four young women struggling through their quarter life crises

3. You're terrified by the thought that your best years may be behind you and you still feel like you haven't done anything with your life. Remember being 15 and thinking about how at 25 you'd have your life together? Good joke.

4. Social media makes you anxious and you can't help but feel freaked out every time an engagement or baby announcement pops up, even though you don't want to get married or have kids yet.

Read more: 'I'm educated with a good job. Why am I having a quarter-life crisis already?'

5. Listening to Taylor Swift's '22' brings on an existential crisis because, guess what, you're not 22 anymore and maybe not everything will be all right, Taylor.

6. Going into Forever 21 is equally conflicting (shouldn't you be shopping at Reiss and Jigsaw by now anyway?).

7. But you keep telling yourself 25 is the new 21. It is. It really is. I'm going to keep writing about it until everyone agrees it is, anyway.

8. You're torn between wanting to be a proper grown-up and wanting to be looked after by your parents in a bubble of safety and comfort forever.

9. You feel the need to escape somehow.

10. You find yourself torn between thinking, "F*** it, I'm going to pack in my job and go see the world while I can," and, "S**t, I need to climb the career ladder and work really hard so I can achieve some success in my life."

11. You're offended when you're ID'd - but even more offended when you're not.

12. You buy yourself an expensive handbag or gadget because you want it to appear like you've got your s*** together even though you're not sure you can pay your rent this month.

13. You don't know whether you should be dating around and having casual fun or trying to find the one - because everyone tells you something different.

14. Your temporary job has somehow lasted three years.

15. While you and your peers were once all impoverished youngsters together, you've realised that your friends working in higher-paid industries will likely be richer than you for the rest of your life and the gap between your incomes is probably only going to widen, which kinda sucks.

But remember, fellow young grasshoppers, life isn't about money or marriage or any of the things we're freaking out about. And most of all, it isn't a race. While it's true being in your 20s now is different to how it was for our parents, your 20s were always a time for figuring out who you are and what you want to do with your life. We'll get there.

Herald

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