Mindful moment… Try the positivity diet
So I'm on a diet at the moment. I'm not cutting out carbs or sugar (although I really could do with it) - I'm doing my all-out best to cut out moaning and actually it's proving harder than giving up chocolate.
According to the controversial, but ever-popular, self-help book The Secret, you should not talk negatively about anything. "If you are complaining, the law of attraction will powerfully bring into your life more situations for you to complain about. Even if you listen to other people complain and sympathise with them, you are asking for more misery yourself," says author Rhonda Byrne, who adds that if your friends start to complain, you should change the subject or leave. I have no idea if the law of attraction is true, but I have realised this over recent months - sometimes a good old moan makes you feel better, but, more often than not, it doesn't. It brings you down, brings everyone around you down and becomes a very bad habit. Feeling sorry for yourself can become quite addictive, I've realised. And so, enough. For the next few weeks I plan to be a cross between Pollyanna and Mary Poppins. I wonder which my friends will find more annoying - negative me or happy me?
* Marianne Power is the author of helpmeblog.net