Mindful moment… Take the time to say thanks
I recently introduced a friend to someone who I knew could really help her new business. It wasn't a big deal and it made me feel good to help.
This week I bumped into her and asked her if she'd ever got anywhere with my contact. She said: "Yes! She was brilliant. We've had three meetings and she's helping me find new staff." I was furious. I couldn't believe she had not thought to say thank you.
We're all busy but surely a quick email would not have been too much trouble? To be honest, I'd have thought it warranted a card or some flowers. In self-help and happiness circles there is a lot of talk about gratitude. It is usually spoken about in a vague way - as if the universe responds to your gratitude by sending you lots more good things.
But it occurred to me this week that actually gratitude is very practical. If my friend had shown her gratitude I would have felt delighted and kept an eye out for other things I could do. As it is, I am not inclined to help any more. It's also made me wonder how many times I've closed doors by not taking the time to say thanks. And so, I'd like to issue a blanket thank you to all for reading. If you send me your address, I'll send you a card. It's the least I can do!
Marianne Power is the author of helpmeblog.net