Mindful moment… Mirror, mirror…
I have been working with somebody lately who has been driving me up the wall.
She pretends she's done things that she hasn't, she covers up her mistakes and is defensive if I ask her any questions. It's making me angry.
But, according to Deepak Chopra, the reason she is making me angry is because she is reflecting my own behaviour back to me. He says that the world around us is a mirror, and that things that most irritate us about others are the things that we dislike in ourselves.
In this way all relationships are meant to be an opportunity for growth and healing because they show us the parts of ourselves that we need to work on. Only by changing the bad behaviour in ourselves can we be free.
I don't much like this argument. I'd much rather stew in anger and criticise someone else than look hard in the mirror at myself.
Because if I did that, I would have to admit that I too get defensive, often pretend to have done things I haven't done and don't fess up to my mistakes.
* Marianne Power is the author of helpmeblog.net