Life Mental Health

Sunday 21 October 2018

Mindful moment… Got 99 problems… and yourself is one

'Our problems might be a way of getting attention or of feeling important'
'Our problems might be a way of getting attention or of feeling important'

Marianne Power

Self-improvement god Tony Robbins says that man's biggest addiction isn't to food or shopping or alcohol or drugs - it is to our problems. He also says that as much as we may think we don't want problems, we do because they fulfil a need in us.

Our problems might be a way of getting attention or of feeling important. They can be a way of creating drama in our lives. They can also, according to Power of Now author, Eckhart Tolle, be our identity.

"For a lot of people, a large part of their sense of self is intimately connected with their problems. When this happens the last thing they want to do is become free of them; that would mean the loss of self," he says.

Isn't that true? Right now my life is a dream but my sneaky mind is still finding problems where there are none. I am quite attached to my identity as being a hard-done-by, over-worked person. How silly is that?

And so I'm doing my best to step back and notice this tendency in me. Instead of getting caught up in all my made-up problems, I am choosing to laugh at my silly self.

* Marianne Power is the author of helpmeblog.net

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