Mindful moment… Critical thinking
Criticism is never fun. Neither is conflict. I have spent a lifetime running away from both but I'm now realising that that's more exhausting than facing the music head on.
Relationships expert Jan Day says that we should not consider criticism as a rejection but rather as information. Instead of bristling at a perceived attack and preparing excuses or an angry reply, she believes that we should really listen to what the other person is saying and think, 'How interesting that you saw my behaviour like that...'
Instead of being defensive when someone gives us negative feedback we should take ourselves out of the situation and see things from their point of view.
We might not agree with their interpretation of events but we need to realise that their feelings are as valid as ours. And if we can find a way to really take them in, we learn and improve. There can be such a thing as constructive criticism.
It might not be fun but I suspect there might be gold on the other side.
* Marianne Power is the author of helpmeblog.net