Sunday 20 January 2019

Mindful moment… Always look on the bright side…

'We have a choice in how to see life'
'We have a choice in how to see life'

Marianne Power

The late American psychologist Wayne Dyer once said: "How other people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours."

He believed that we have a choice in how to see life: either we see the bad things that happen as a reason to feel sorry for ourselves, or we see them as "a gift" that will allow us to overcome a challenge and grow as a person.

Essentially, the message is that every obstacle that we encounter can be an opportunity to grow or an excuse not to.

This is an annoying idea when you are in the mood to feel sorry for yourself - or inclined to believe that bad things always happen to you - but, let's face it, Wayne Dyer is right.

There are not many things we have control over, but we can control our reaction to what happens to us. This can be particularly challenging when we think that someone has done something wrong to us.

I've spent years harbouring grudges, mentally building up my case against people - but the only person this hurts is myself.

So, it's time to end the pity party. Sorry.

* Marianne Power is the author of

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