Ask Allison: 'My partner's constant lying is infuriating'
Q My partner tells small lies and it infuriates me. For example, he might have finished the milk but denies doing so, or in company, he'll say he has seen a TV programme, when I know that he hasn't. I honestly don't think he lies about serious things - we've been together four years - but I wonder if I am somehow fuelling this in some way, and if some of these lies are because he wants to avoid conflict. Other times, I worry that it's because he doesn't have a firm grasp on reality and that he genuinely forgets about or misinterprets situations - so what he's presenting is his 'truth'. I don't pull him up on the lies, generally, because I'm embarrassed by them, but this is diminishing my respect for him. What is your advice on how to best handle it?