Are you involved with a psychopath? Here’s how to leave them

Stand-up comedian Maddy Anholt spent her 20s in a series of damaging relationships which almost destroyed her. She shares her story of gaslighting, coercive control and how she got her life back

Maddy Anholt was very good at covering up her problems with 'I’m-fining'

Suzanne Harrington

When women become entrapped in abusive/coercive relationships, the first thing we always ask them is, ‘why don’t you just leave?’. Nobody asked Maddy Anholt this, however, because she was so adept at what she calls “I’m-fining”. Yet throughout her 20s, she was quite some way from fine.