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A widower’s diary: ‘What do you do with a person’s ashes? I don’t really know, so they’re in the wardrobe for now’

Father of four Steve Dempsey recently lost his wife to cancer. He writes about life after saying goodbye

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Steve Dempsey at home in Skerries, Co Dublin. Photo: Steve Humphreys

Steve Dempsey at home in Skerries, Co Dublin. Photo: Steve Humphreys

Steve Dempsey at home in Skerries, Co Dublin. Photo: Steve Humphreys

It’s almost nine months since Kate died and I just got her ashes last week. Is this sort of delay normal? I don’t know. What do you do with them? I don’t know that either. I’ve put them in a wardrobe for now.

They’re in an ugly green plastic container. It looks like packaging for something you’d buy in a garden centre. But instead of slug pellets or weedkiller, it’s marked with a label that says “Kate Dempsey 4091”. It’s heavy. And if you looked inside, you’d find that the ashes themselves are grainy. More like sand than ashes you’d clean out of a fire. My first reaction when I saw them was to worry about Keith Richards’ nasal passage: he claims to have snorted his father’s ashes.


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