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Ask Allison: ‘I’ve bought a new house with my partner, but now his elderly mum wants to move in. What should we do?’

Our resident therapist answers your queries about life and relationships

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I am a woman in my 60s and started seeing a man of similar age a few years ago. We have since moved in together and get along very well. He is lovely in every way, a true gentleman. We have decided to purchase a house together and relocate to a different county, which is causing a few issues with his elderly mother.

As there will be plenty of room in the new house, she has suggested relocating with us and moving in there. I feel this is unfair as she needs care and daily assistance. Myself and my partner haven’t had easy lives and I feel this is our time to have some space to ourselves and enjoy life. If we are tied down on a daily basis this will impact days out, weekends away and holidays. My partner has full responsibility for his mother. I want to be fair and to support him as much as I can but I also need to start living my life after years of working.


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