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A widower’s diary: ‘Post-death red tape requires a printer, a car and a lot of free time’

In January, father of four Steve Dempsey lost his wife to cancer. In his new weekly column, he writes about life after saying goodbye

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Father of four Steve Dempsey lost his wife, Kate, to cancer. Photo: Steve Humphreys

Father of four Steve Dempsey lost his wife, Kate, to cancer. Photo: Steve Humphreys

Father of four Steve Dempsey lost his wife, Kate, to cancer. Photo: Steve Humphreys

When my wife was dying, I lost all track of time. Was that a day? A week? A month? Who knows! All the normal events that break our days and weeks into meaningful chunks lost their stickiness. After Kate died, time refused to return to its normal rhythm for a while, passing instead in fits and starts.

It was strange. And made even stranger by the administrative tasks surrounding death. One of them was organising the funeral — but I’ll come back to that some other time.


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