erhaps, though, this set of exams has garnered less interest because we perceive the levels of stress that the students are facing to be much lower, since they have the option of also using their calculated grades when it comes to determining their final results.
Yet, even with the comparative safety net of the calculated grades, I think this cohort of students may have been the most disrupted, educationally, by Covid. They missed time at the end of their fifth year, when few schools were well prepared for online learning, and then they also missed time this year too.
Watching the confusion that reigned with last year’s sixth year group and hearing the stories of bitterly disappointed students who were not happy with their calculated grades must also have left them anxious about what fate would befall them this year if Covid stuck around.
And Covid has stuck around. It still threatens to disrupt students, especially in places like Limerick where the infection rate remains stubbornly high. So this column is for those students and their families who begin a Leaving Cert exam period like no other, because where there is uncertainty, there may also be anxiety.
Typically, with anticipatory anxiety (like the kind students may feel in the lead up to exams), it helps to focus on the here and now and those things over which you have control rather than focusing on what is to come in the days and weeks ahead. Students cannot influence the content of the exam papers; they are all set and waiting. All they can influence is how they approach those exams, and how they give themselves the best chance to perform well.
There may be little that students can do in terms of preparation, bar whatever last-minute cramming that they may have planned. So, to improve performance over the course of the next few weeks, they may want to look at the balance they are achieving.
It is all too easy to have spent the last few weeks studying to the exclusion of everything else, and so it may be really important to re-introduce some balance as the exams get going.
Stress is always reduced by being able to get fresh air, taking some exercise and eating healthily. Stress tends to lead to physical tension, headaches, nausea and so on, and each of those can be improved by making sure our physical health is minded.
So, if you can encourage your student son or daughter to keep getting out for walks, even keep up sports, over the course of the exams it will stand to them. Encourage them to avoid pulling all night study sessions, or relying on energy drinks or coffee to keep going.
As a parent, you have the opportunity to mind them in terms of the food that is available, and the more balanced and nutritious you can make it the better.
Hopefully you have been able to take some time off, to be around more over the next few weeks, as you would be surprised how even the most prepared student can hit a wobbly when the exam paper is not what was expected or there is some last-minute, Covid-related, change forced upon them. Having a parent’s reassuring hug may be the salve they need to get back in the game for the next exam.
It is never any harm to know your son’s or daughter’s exam timetable; not to take over responsibility from them, but simply to be to be a back-up if they oversleep or somehow mix up the dates of exams.
Given the amount of stress and anxiety that has abounded in families, irrespective of the Leaving Cert, you may find that you are as wound up as your son or daughter now that the exams are upon us. You may also feel like you are living the Leaving Cert and you may have to focus on regulating some of your own stress to be able to offer them the TLC they may need.
It might be very tempting to be waiting for them, after their first exam, ready to find out how they got on. Be wary, however, of interrogating them on the doorstep. Give them a chance to “land” back home, take your lead by their mood. Do enquire about how they found the paper(s) but hold back from leading them into a post-mortem.
Focus more on supporting them emotionally, acknowledging how they seem to feel and offering them reassurance about your confidence in how they will be able to cope over the next few weeks.
More than anything, your son or daughter just needs to know that you are there and that you love them, no matter what. Beir bua!