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Dear David Coleman: My three-year-old shows no affection and his behaviour is upsetting

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Discuss your son's behaviour with your public health nurse

Discuss your son's behaviour with your public health nurse

Discuss your son's behaviour with your public health nurse

Q I have a three-year-old son. He shows no sign of wanting to start potty training, uses his soother all the time, and isn't showing any affection, apart from when he wants something or is very upset, then he will come to me. He resists my hugs and the last few weeks he's telling me "I don't like you". I'm finding this very upsetting. What could this be?

David replies: It is hard to tell what might be up for your son, as the various things you mention may or may not be all connected. Your son's lack of interest in toilet training is not unusual for a three-year-old, nor is continued use of a soother.

The fact that he resists your affection and your hugs, on their own, are not unusual, but, depending on how long they have lasted, and taken with the other issues you mention, could indicate some kind of delay.