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Dear David Coleman: My son is sending and receiving naked pictures. What should I do?

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Teens should understand that messages, pictures, or videos sent via the internet or smartphones are never truly private or anonymous. In seconds they can be out there for all the world to see

Teens should understand that messages, pictures, or videos sent via the internet or smartphones are never truly private or anonymous. In seconds they can be out there for all the world to see

Teens should understand that messages, pictures, or videos sent via the internet or smartphones are never truly private or anonymous. In seconds they can be out there for all the world to see

Q I've just discovered that my 15-year-old son has been sending and receiving naked pictures with his girlfriend. I'm horrified. I can't quite believe he'd do this. I've said to him over and over again not to be watching porn and then he goes and does this. I've taken his phone off him, but don't know what else is a reasonable punishment? I also don't know if I should speak to his girlfriend's parents. What do you think?

A I am sure it was shocking to find out your son had been sending and receiving naked pictures. It is a behaviour that seems quite extraordinary to most parents and yet may seem "normal" to them.

There is certainly just cause to speak with your son, at some length, about his behaviour, but I would caution against punishing him. For a start, unless you had specifically forbidden him to take or receive naked selfies, he may feel he has done nothing wrong, especially if there was mutual consent from his girlfriend.


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