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Dear David Coleman: My husband is too strict. How can I get him to be kinder?

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You are your husband might benefit from some advice and guidance

You are your husband might benefit from some advice and guidance

You are your husband might benefit from some advice and guidance

Q My husband is too strict with our little boy, who is seven years old since last month. When I tell him, we just end up in a big fight and he says that I spoil our son and nothing changes. How can I get him to be kinder?

David replies:  Conflicts about parenting styles and approaches to rearing our children are commonplace in many families. It can be a huge adjustment for any of us to align our views with our partners, because we may have had very different experiences, growing up.

The conflicts we have about parenting, may also simply be representative of other deeper conflicts that we have which, in fact, reflect core differences in values or beliefs. The way we approach parenting may just be highlighting these issues.